relationship therapy for individuals
Individual Therapy For Love Relationships
If there’s one dimension of being human that I’m pretty sure I can help you with, it’s love relationships. Marriages, partnerships and singles issues have been a major focus of my practice since the beginning. For instance, my practice included couples counseling for 16 years. During that time I met with around 700 couples for thousands of sessions. I bring some serious life experience to this area as well. Currently I’m offering individual relationship therapy for some types of couples problems along with help for single people.
Why would I want individual relationship therapy for a couples problem?
If you’re in couples therapy (or seeking it), good for you! As a former couples therapist, I’m a firm believer in how transformative couples counseling can be. There are many issues such as conflicts, communication and connection where it is essential to work through them in a couples therapy environment.
However, there are some reasons you might want individual relationship therapy for a couples problem. For example, I see partners for issues like the ones below, that are better addressed in individual counseling. Do any of these statements sound like you?
- “I need a safe place to be honest and open about my feelings. There’s so much I don’t express in couples therapy because I’m afraid of hurting my partner. I need help being more assertive.”
- “I’ve begged my partner to go to couples therapy but they refuse, so I need support and perspective.”
- “I’m realizing that my personal issues are really affecting my relationship and our couples work. I need help with my… (anger, addiction, control issues, depression, anxiety).”
- “My partner betrayed me. I am in unbelievable pain and need intensive help with someone who understands how traumatizing this has been.”
- I’m learning so much in couples therapy but I need someone to help me process it more deeply.”
- “We’re going to couples therapy but my heart isn’t in it. I’ve been planning to leave the relationship, but I’m afraid to say so in our sessions.”
- “I’m having an affair and my partner doesn’t know. I feel so guilty going to couples therapy and pretending that I’m invested in it.”
HOW COUNSELING CAN HELP
I often work with people who are in couples therapy but need additional support. Quite regularly, they find that individual work helps their relationship to more quickly improve.
Some areas of focus are:
- Helping you sort through your thoughts and feelings
- Identifying your relationship behaviors, hopes and fears
- Increasing your self-awareness
- Decreasing negative behaviors and emotions
- Helping you heal from loss or broken trust
- Gaining clarity to move forward
Divorce and Separation
Some of my clients have struggled with marriage difficulties that strained their relationship connection to the point of breaking. Therefore, I’m familiar with the uncertainty, pain and heartache that comes with the decision to separate or divorce, and empathize with how hard it is to know if it’s the right thing to do.
HOW RELATIONSHIP THERAPY CAN HELP
There are so many overwhelming feelings during this process and often flip-flopping emotions.
Individual relationship therapy is a place where:
- You have a sounding board and a safe place to process your anxiety, depression, guilt, anger or loneliness.
- You can form a narrative as to why this breakup has happened and how each partner has contributed to the situation. Since divorce rates go up with each following marriage, it’s essential to grow from this experience in order to prevent it from happening again.
- If you are still on the fence about whether to divorce, it’s a place to explore the issues in your relationship and gain confidence that you’ve done everything you can to make it better.
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Singles: 7 Top Relationship Concerns
These are some of the issues that single people often bring into counseling. Are any of these a concern for you?
- My boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with me and I can’t get over it. I think about them to the point of obsession.
- I just got out of a bad relationship and don’t want to make the same mistakes again. I need help with how I pick partners.
- After my last relationship breakup, I’ve lost confidence in myself.
- I can’t seem to meet anyone and wonder if I ever will. I’m running out of time.
- I can’t sustain a long-term relationship and wonder if there’s something wrong with me.
- I’m falling in love with this guy/girl but I don’t think they feel the same way.
- I feel so much pressure from others to be in a relationship. Is it okay to stay single?
HOW THERAPY CAN HELP
Relationship therapy can help you:
- Grieve the end of a relationship and move on.
- Explore and identify what you value in a relationship.
- Learn how to have a better “picker” and identify red flags in order to avoid toxic relationships.
- Increase your self-awareness to build self-esteem and continue your own personal growth.
- Understand relationship dynamics and how to be a better partner.
- Be comfortable with where you are, in or out of a relationship.
If you are looking for help with any of these concerns or others, please click the Send A Message button to schedule a free consultation.
